Not being in the situation it is hard to say how I might feel if it were a more personal issue to me or my family, but in spite of that it doesn't seem the right thing to me. I came across  a phrase over Christmas which was used to described Mary's attitude to the news that she would bear a child,  the writer suggested that to really know God we had to become  'humbly dependent'. 

That doesn't come easily to me as I always want to be proactive and make things happen, yet if I believe that nothing is impossible with God, how will I leave room for him to do wondrous things if I am always trying to control things.

My father lived with a crippling stroke for six years and my mum is currently in the dementia unit, neither of them having a dignified end to their lives, yet in the last part of their journey with all its hardships there are times and events, that looking back, I would not have chosen to miss; things which deepened our relationships, which brought us a sense of peace, miracles which did not change the situation ,but changed how I dealt with it and brought  me peace. Maybe at one of the hardest times of our lives, we have to learn to be humbly dependent, and let God in.